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關於迦雅
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與大師對談
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迦雅(Jaya)* 德國籍,早年曾活躍於新浪潮電影運動。為了追尋宗教和靈性領會,研究西藏佛教、加上對大自然的熱忱,讓他有機會在德國最大的旅遊公司擔任喜瑪拉亞及西藏地區的導遊。* 將藝術與大自然導入靈性成長團體,也為男性設計課程,對性別關係有獨到的認識。

愛如光明、懼如黑暗,當我們有足夠的愛時,恐懼就會自然變少。
撰文/賴佩霞.翻譯/張幼丁
整理/編輯部.攝影/邱如仁.視覺/KoKo
男人和女人的快樂

走進約訪的安德昇藝廊,透過玻璃門看見一臉稚氣的迦雅,正和攝影師話家常。他的笑容非常純真,就像遇到多年不見的老朋友,熟悉親切。特別的是,我發現自己雀躍的童心,毫無防備地被喚了出來。邁開一個箭步,還沒自我介紹,我們已經張開雙臂,先給彼此親切的大擁抱,這是我們初次見面。
我接觸心理學已近三十年,早期充實學理是為了參與青少年關護教育,後來發現自己深陷情緒泥沼,便投入多年心力進行自我探索。從學理養成、應用心理,到診斷、治療等等,不知不覺總把焦點投注在問題上:問題出在哪裡、如何解決、為什麼?一個個費思量的﹁問題﹂總教我眉頭深鎖。好不容易,十五年前正向心理學開始形成,歷經多年研究,如今開枝散葉。無論在學術、企業、文化上,﹁快樂﹂總算展露頭角,它的價值開始被正視,也慢慢受到主流社會的關注。
然而,﹁快樂﹂絕不是從書上看看或跟人談談就成局,關鍵在於實踐。就像游泳,無論你懂多少理論,多麼會講,只要不下水,不親自體現,你永遠無法稱自己是一個會游泳的人。除了熟知待人處世的道理,
如果無法活出輕鬆、自
在、快樂,那人生未免不夠圓滿。如何活出所學,是我接下來的生命重點。
當我開始睜大眼睛,想從身邊親朋好友中尋求快樂的榜樣時,竟發現寥寥無幾。相較於西方,東方人更拘謹。從小開始,天真、單純、平凡、幽默、輕鬆、開朗、快樂,從來都不是學校強調的素質。因此,就算每個人身上都有這
些潛力,不但沒有被開發,甚至會受打壓。迦雅是德國人。我走訪世界各地的靈修中心或心理學重鎮,發現德國人的比例相當高。我想,沈重的歷史讓他們深惡痛絕,為了探索生命的光明面,迫使他們面對人性的黑暗,作更深的省思。
陽光充足的午後,藝廊裡充滿了笑聲。訪談中,迦雅的輕鬆自在,身邊的人都受到感染。雖然初次見面,他的笑容讓人一見如故,目光深受吸引,自然不在話下。在歡樂中,我們談論出非常具建設性,對男人與女人都受用的話題。如果愛你的男人,請把這一期︽魅麗︾放在他可以看得見的地方,因為有些話不適合自己說,就讓我們替你發聲吧!這樣容易多了。

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﹁快樂﹂絕不是從書上看看或跟人談談就成局,關鍵在於實踐。就像游泳,只要不下水,你永遠無法稱自己是一個會游泳的人。
賴佩霞:請簡單跟我們介紹一下你的藝術背景與養成教育。
迦雅:我的父親是攝影師也是演員,母親是藝評家。在我很小的時候,常常跟著母親參觀不同的博物館及畫廊。剛開始對這樣的活動比較排斥,因為我喜歡戶外活動,對博物館實在不感興趣。現在回過頭來看,這些經歷卻在我心中播下種籽,漸漸成長茁壯,成為我日後熱愛藝術的基礎。
母親喜歡旅行,對考古也有興趣,在我九歲的時候帶我一起造訪很多靈修聖地,體驗不同的文化。後來我參與德國新電影運動,在電影公司待了七年,拍了很多訪問藝術家和哲學家的紀錄片。母親把我帶進這個領域,讓我接觸到不同的藝術文化。小時候跟母親在這方面的衝突,如今都已達成和解,成熟後的我,再一次愛上了藝術。
賴佩霞:你的背景和許多帶領團體的老師不太一樣,你是否會將藝術導入你的課程?
迦雅:我會把創作元素導入團體,讓學員用繪畫來表達心裡的感受。藝術本來就與靈性習習相關。雖然現在有很多當代藝術和政治、社會議題有關,我們以為藝術變得比較理性,但事實上它還是在呈現我們的內在感覺,它不是講求邏輯性的東西。靈性本來就強調去﹁經驗﹂而不是﹁思考﹂,所以本質上和藝術是很接近的。藝術是一種媒介,可以把內在經驗轉化成看得見、聽得見、摸得到、感受得到的東西,對我來說,這就是藝術最大的吸引力。
賴佩霞:是什麼樣的機緣讓你開始從事靈修教育?
迦雅:一九八六年,我在印度擔任奧修雜誌的平面設計,雖然八〇年就開始接受治療師訓練,但當時主要還是把心思放在藝術專業上。直到一九九○奧修去世之後,才正式投入教學與諮商工作。因為我的背景,我非常喜歡在課堂上結合藝術去表達想法。
賴佩霞:印度哪一點吸引你,讓你選擇留下?
迦雅:我在德國出生,進入社會就從事電影工作,幾年後決定放棄原本的工作,開始旅行。事實上我並不認為自己是德國人,多半時間我都在各地旅行。當時去印度主要是為了奧修,後來就留下來,算算在那裡生活了三十年,我非常熱愛亞洲文化。
穿越物質世界尋求自我
賴佩霞:你覺得現代人心靈上最主要的困境是什麼?是什麼讓人無法活出自己想要的生命?
迦雅:我覺得問題來自於物質世界的誘惑。雖然我們都知道內在世界很重要,它是我們生命主要的動力來源,但大多數的人還是在物質世界裡勞碌奔波。外在世界的誘惑永遠不會停止,你很難去抵抗。但是你越投入外在世界的浮沉,內心就越分裂,想尋求內外合一,當然就越困難。就算有些人不刻意追求物質享受,但成長過程中,如果沒有人教導該如何關注心裡的衝突,當你看著別人汲汲營營的追逐,心裡難免會有波動、迷失、不確定的感覺,甚至開始懷疑自己的單純。幸運的是我遇到了奧修,讓我的生命轉了個大彎。我開始對靈性的﹁快樂﹂絕不是從書上看看或跟人談談就成局,關鍵在於實踐。就像游泳,只要不下水,你永遠無法稱自己是一個會游泳的人。探索產生很大的熱情,也瞭解到該把生命的追求放在什麼地方,我決定要從內在世界活出真實的自己。
賴佩霞:有些人之所以不敢深入探索,是因為害怕自己如果失去對世俗的興趣,將讓自己的生命和主流價值不同, 這時,該怎麼辦?
迦雅:傳統的靈修觀點有兩派,一派主張追求﹁涅磐﹂,一派主張該享受活潑的生命。奧修提出結合兩者的觀點,把生命的每個面向連接在一起,把神帶到人間。當年這雖然不是主流的想法,但是非常吸引我,這也是我來到奧修面前的主要原因,更堅定了我探索心靈的腳步。
東方的傳統靈修否定物質世界,要人拋棄俗世的一切,所以很多人對靈修有所畏懼。但是,造成這個現象的主要原因,是因為我們沒有接受正確的教導。我剛開始在台灣接觸學員的時候,花了很長的時間去暸解台灣人的特質,我發現東方人的自我概念比較弱,不像西方人那樣界線分明,東方人似乎更重視﹁團體﹂。因此,根據不同的文化,我會採取不同的教學以及治療方式,對症下藥幫助我的學員解決內在的問題。另外,我也遇到很多來學習靈修的人,他們的問題出在﹁混淆﹂內在和外在世界的差異。舉例來說,我讓學員去學習發洩情緒,但他們以為必須對外在的當事人發洩,所以開始對家人大吼大叫,導致一些不必要的衝突。我說的發洩不是這個意思,我們要真實面對自己的情緒,發洩是為了紓解身上累積的壓力與緊繃,絕對不是讓你去傷害別人。我們要知道,面對內在世界與外在世界的方法是不一樣的。以前的靈修要人出家修行,但現在的靈修是將內在與物質世界合而為一,我們可以在和目前的生活裡,找到提升自己心靈的方法。
賴佩霞:你特別針對男性開設了靈性成長課程,為什麼想開這樣的課?結果如何?
迦雅:傳統宗教裡,男性的位置通常都是主導的地位。所以我覺得很奇怪,現代的靈修團體中,男性竟如此稀少!我辦男性團體,主要是因為想了解台灣男人。有趣的是,來的人竟然還是以女性比較多,因為她們比男人更想瞭解男人。台灣男人,你們到底在哪裡?我發現,這種現象反映出,男人還是不習慣表達自己的情感,特別是跟自己相關的情感議題。男性不喜歡談論感受,他們只想確定結果。相反的,女性會想表達感受,這甚至是她們生命中重要的精神糧食。談到生活中的問題、現象或狀況的時候,男人只想解決問題,不必多談,可是女人往往想談自己的感覺。

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男性不喜歡談論感受,只想盡早確定結果。女性想表達感受,這是生命重要的精神
看清男女關係尋求和諧
賴佩霞:太好了,以你的觀察,請你說說女人要怎麼做,才能跟男人享有更多美好的時光?
迦雅:如果想擁有更好的相處品質,女人必須感受一下﹁男人的生活方式﹂。男人對外在世界比較感興趣,他們傾向去經歷外在的事物。相反的,在情感世界裡男人比較被動,沒辦法像女人一樣擁有強烈的主導力,更不像女人這麼喜歡談論感受性的話題。其實,當女性談論過多情感性議題,或強迫男人談論自己的感受時,男人往往會退縮,反而造成彼此更多的嫌隙與衝突。
女性可以主動營造感性的氛圍,讓男人在被動的角色裡,學習去經歷它。因為大部分的男人都很害怕面對情感,即使感受到,也不知該如何處理。女性可以嘗試更溫柔一點,去理解男人天生的弱點。當然,男性也需要學習關注和接納自己內在的情感。在交流的過程中,男女雙方都有很多可以學習的地方。
俗話說﹁每個成功男人的背後,都有一個女人。﹂女人可以提供更具感染力、更有創意的對話空間,就像女人孕育新生命的過程一樣。男人並非所有的面向都很﹁陽剛﹂,透過跟女性的相處與交流,男人會更理解﹁陰柔﹂的智慧與巧妙。這樣的體驗對彼此都好,對建立親密關係很有幫助。然而,重點是我們要先理解自己的侷限,覺察自己的身心狀態,也要花心思瞭解彼此的互動細節,以及情感的運作方式,才能培養更好的溝通方法。
賴佩霞:談過男人和女人的差異,現在說說什麼是男女的共通點呢?
迦雅:我認為人的靈性是一樣的,也就是我們內在的本質都相同。我們從外在表現出來的差異,讓人誤以為我們內在的本質也不同,其實不是這樣的,我們內在的本質都一樣,只是每個人都有不同的表達方式而已。如果感覺彼此之間的差異,是否能以好奇來取代批評?如此一來,在探索生命的過程中,彼此都會有很大的成長空間,好的關係會在這樣的基礎中建立起來。有趣的是,當兩人都去探索彼此的不同時,這些差異反而成了親密關係的主要張力。假如兩個人都想把對方變成跟自己一樣,關係反而很容易結束,因為所有的張力都不見了。沒有人時時刻刻,都想跟自己一模一樣的人在一起吧?
改變的同時也要保有自我
賴佩霞:你提到兩個重點,一、不要老想把對方變得像自己一樣。很多女人總是耳提面命要她的男人﹁更﹂符合自己的期待,卻忘了他們已經做得不錯的事實,這使得男人也承受很大的壓力。另一點是提醒女人,男人跟女人有非常不同的特質。
迦雅:是的,對方身上有很多令我們係,不要老是把焦點放在對方缺點上。在關係裡,如果我們可以分享內在,願意敞開,同時也接受伴侶跟自己的不同,這樣的關係就會很有趣。當然,要達到這樣的境界可能有些困難,但我們必須面對這分挑戰,因為我們想要了解對方,想擁有更美好的親密關係。
賴佩霞:最後,請和我們分享你教學的目的及重點
迦雅:我將重點放在接納的能力上,協助人們將內在和外在融合。藉由內在的潛力,學習如何將日常生活的每一步,移向我們內在真實的自己。
迦雅:我將重點放在接納的能力上,協助人們將內在和外在融合。藉由內在的潛力,學習如何將日常生活的每一步,移向我們內在真實的自己。
過去傳統靈修過度強調男性的修行,其實女性的本質中有很多愛的能量,更能把愛彰顯出來,這對現代社會來說是非常重要的。靈修不只是出世的修行,也能在入世的狀態下整合。我喜歡整合內在和外在,而不只是偏重在某個焦點上。
愛如光明、懼如黑暗,當我們有足夠的愛時,恐懼就會自然變少。人都怕往內看,不斷讓內在的陰影影響到外在世界。然而,我們都是如此豐富的個體,假如我們可以接納自己,學習去愛自己內在的不同部分,就能更容易接納別人。


Amazing Magazine 2013/No.74 by La Peixia
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People Talk with Master Jaya * German nationality , was active in the early New Wave film movement . In order to pursue religious and spiritual understanding , study Tibetan Buddhism , coupled with a passion for nature , let him have the opportunity to serve as Germany's largest travel companies and the Himalayan region of Tibet tour . * Import art and nature spiritual growth groups , but also for men designed courses on gender relations have a unique understanding.


Devotional Art Masters Interview Jaya Happy man and woman Love, such as light, fear as dark , when we have enough love , the fear will naturally become less . Author / Lai Peixia . Translation / Zhangyou Ding Finishing / newsroom . Photography / Qiuru Ren . Vision / KoKo

Yue Fang Andrews walked up galleries, through the glass door to see innocent Jaya , positive and photographers talking about family . His smile is very pure , like the encounter old friends not seen for many years , familiar kind. In particular, I find myself excited innocence , unsuspecting to be called out. Stride a stride , not self-introduction, we have open arms , give each other a big warm hug, this is our first meeting . I contacted psychology nearly three decades earlier theoretical enrichment of youth related to nursing education , and later found himself in deep emotional quagmire , they invested years of effort for self-exploration . From the theoretical develop , Applied Psychology , to diagnosis, treatment , etc., unwittingly betting total focus on the problem : where is the problem , how to solve , and why ?
﹁ One tough job faced problems ﹂ always taught me brows . Finally , fifteen years ago, positive psychology began to form , after years of research , is now flourishing . Whether in the academic , business, culture , ﹁ happy ﹂ finally fling , its value began to be addressed, but also slowly by the mainstream community. However, ﹁ happy ﹂ not from the book to see or talk with people on the bureau , the key is practice . Like swimming , no matter how much theory you know , what can speak , as long as no water, do not personally embody , you can never say that he is a person to swim . In addition to well-known Dairenchushi the truth, If you can not live a relaxed, self- In , happy , that life would be complete enough . How to live out what they have learned , is the focus of my next life . In , happy , that life would be complete enough . How to live out what they have learned , is the focus of my next life . When I started to open their eyes wide , trying to seek happiness around friends and family role models , they discovered that very few. Compared to the West, Asians more cautious . Start early , naive, simple , ordinary, humorous , relaxed, cheerful , happy, never schools emphasize quality. Thus , even if every person has this Some potential has not been developed , or even by the pressure . Jaya is German . I visited around the world Spiritual Center or psychological town, found a high proportion of German . I think they hated heavy history , in order to explore the bright side of life , forcing them to face the darkness of human nature , for deeper reflection. Sunny afternoon, the gallery was filled with laughter . Interviews, Jaya 's ease, everyone around infected. Although the first meeting, people hit it off his smile , his eyes deeply attracted overemphasized. In joy , we're talking about a very constructive for men and women are good enough for the topic. If you love your man , please put this issue on his ︽ Modern Korea ︾ visible place, because some things do not lend themselves to say , let us sound right for you ! So much easier.

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﹁Happy﹂ not from the book to see or talk with people on the bureau, the key is practice. Like swimming, as long as no water, you can never say that he is a person to swim.

Lai Peixia: Please briefly tell us about your artistic background and develop education.
Jaya: My father was a photographer and performer, and his mother was an art critic. I was very young when his mother visited often different museums and galleries. Beginning on such activities more exclusive, because I like outdoor activities, the museum is really not interested. Looking back now, but these experiences sowed the seeds in my mind, and gradually grow and prosper and become the basis for my future love art.
Lai Peixia: your background and teacher of many leading organizations are not the same, you will import your arts curriculum?
Jaya: I will create elements into groups, so that students with a painting to express the feelings of the heart. Arts already associated with spirituality breeze. Although there are a lot of contemporary art and politics, social issues related, we thought arts become more rational, but in fact it is our inner feeling is rendered, it is not logical emphasis on things. Spiritual experience already stressed to
﹁﹁ ﹂instead of thinking﹂, nature and art are so very close. Art is a medium that can see into the inner experience, hear, touch, feel, something that for me, this is the biggest attraction of Art.
Lai Peixia: What is the chance to get you started in the spiritual education?

Jaya: 1986, I was in India as Osho magazine graphic design, although in 2080 it began to accept the therapist training, but it was mainly just concentrate on artistic professional. It was not until 1999 Osho's death, was officially put into teaching and counseling work. Because of my background, I really like the combination of art in the classroom to express ideas.
Lai Peixia: India what point appeal to you, let you choose to stay?
Jaya: I was born in Germany into the community to work in film, a few years later decided to abandon the original work, began to travel. In fact, I do not think he is German, most of the time I have been traveling around. Then go to India mainly to Osho, and later on to stay, calculate lived there for three years, I am very fond of Asian culture.I was born in Germany into the community to work in film, a few years later decided to abandon the original work, began to travel. In fact, I do not think he is German, most of the time I have been traveling around. Then go to India mainly to Osho, and later on to stay, calculate lived there for three years, I am very fond of Asian culture.
Through the material world to seek self-
Lai Peixia: Do you think the most important modern spiritual dilemma is what? What people can not lived up to the life you want?
Jaya : I think the problem comes from the material world of temptation. While we all know that the inner world is very important, it is the main source of power in our lives , but most people are still in the material world rat race . The temptation of the outside world never stops , it is hard to resist . But the more you put in the outside world drifting , the more inner division, want to seek external unity , and of course more difficult . Even if some people do not deliberately pursue material comfort , but growing up, if no one teaches how to focus on the heart of the conflict , when you look at someone engrossed camp chase, my heart will inevitably fluctuate , lost , uncertain feeling, even began to doubt his own pure . Luckily I met Osho , let my life turned a big bend . I began to spirituality
﹁happy ﹂ never happy to see from the book or talk with people on the bureau , the key is practice . Like swimming, as long as no water, you can never say that he is a person to swim . Explore with great enthusiasm, but also understand that the pursuit of life on what I decided to live out the true from the inner world of their own .
Lai Peixia: The reason why some people dare to explore in depth, because of fear that if he loses interest in secular, will make their lives and mainstream values are different, then, how to do?
Jaya: the traditional spiritual point of view there two factions, one advocating the pursuit
﹁Nirvana﹂, but we prefer to enjoy the lively life. Osho proposed combining the two perspectives, to every aspect of life together, put God into the world. Although this year is not the mainstream ideas, but very appealing to me, which I also came to the front of the main reasons Osho, more determined to explore the mind of my footsteps.
Eastern spiritual traditions deny the material world , dignitaries abandon earthly everything, so many people have fear of spirituality . However, the main reason for this phenomenon is that we do not accept the correct teachings . I started contacting students in Taiwan , it took a long time to understand the characteristics of the people of Taiwan , I found relatively weak self-concept Asians , unlike Westerners clear boundaries , Asians seem to be more emphasis on
﹁ groups ﹂ . Therefore , depending on the culture, I would take a different way of teaching , and treatment , the right medicine to help my students solve the inherent problems . Also, I have encountered many to learn spirituality , their problem lies in the confusion ﹁ world ﹂ intrinsic and extrinsic differences. For example, I enable trainees to learn to vent their emotions , but they thought that the party must be seen in the vent , so start yelling for his family , leading to some unnecessary conflicts. I said vent did not mean that we want to be true to their emotions , vent to relieve stress and tension accumulated in the body , is definitely not for you to hurt others . We want to know the face of the inner world and the outer world is not the same. Previous spiritual dignitaries monk , but now the spiritual and the material world is the inner one, we can and present life, to find ways to enhance their mind .
Lai Peixia: You set up specifically for male spiritual growth course, why you want to open such a lesson? The result?
Lai Peixia: You set up specifically for male spiritual growth course, why you want to open such a lesson? The result?
Jaya: traditional religion, men are usually the location of a dominant position. So I find it very strange, modern spiritual groups, men could be so rare! I do the male groups, mainly because I wanted to understand Taiwan man. Interestingly, to the people or even more in women, more than men, because they want to know man. Taiwanese men, you exactly where? I have found that this phenomenon reflects the man they are unaccustomed to express their feelings, especially the emotions associated with their own agenda. Men do not like to talk about feelings, they just want to determine the result. Instead, women will want to express their feelings, and even their lives in this important spiritual food. Talked about the problems of life, phenomenon or condition, men just want to solve the problem, do not talk about, but women tend to want to talk about their feelings.



Caption: Men do not like to talk about feelings, just as soon as possible to determine the results. Women want to express their feelings, it is important spiritual life of food.

See the relationship between men and women seek harmony
Lai Peixia: Great, to your observation, you tell a woman how to do in order to enjoy more with men a great time?
Jaya: If you want to get along with better quality, a woman must feel
﹁﹂ man's lifestyle. A man more interested in the external world, they tend to go through external things. On the contrary, in the emotional world of men are more passive, no way like a woman with a strong dominant force, more like a woman so fond of talking about the topic of sensitivity. In fact, when women talk too much emotional issues, or forced men to talk about their feelings, men tend to retreat, but the cause of enmity and conflict with each other more. Women can take the initiative to create a sensual atmosphere, so that a man in a passive role in learning to experience it. Because most men are afraid to face the emotional, even feel, I do not know how to handle. Women can try to be more gentle, to understand a man born of weakness. Of course, men also need to learn to focus and acceptance of their inner feelings. In the process of exchange, both men and women have a lot to learn.
As the saying goes
﹁Behind every successful man, there is a woman. ﹂Woman can provide more appealing, more creative space for dialogue, like a woman gave birth to a new life in the process the same. Not all men are facing ﹁masculine﹂ through to get along with women and exchanges, men would be more understandable ﹁﹂ feminine wisdom and clever. This experience is good for each other, the establishment of intimacy helpful. However, the point is that we must first understand their own limitations, aware of their own physical and mental state, but also to put in some effort to understand the details of the interaction with each other, and emotional mode of operation, in order to develop better methods of communication.
Lai Peixia: talked about the differences between men and women, now talk about what men and women have in common is it?
Jaya: I think the human spirit is the same, that is, our inner nature is the same. We demonstrated the difference from the outside, people mistakenly think that our inner nature is different, in fact, not the case, our inner nature are the same, but each person has a different way of expressing it. If you feel the difference between each other, is it possible to replace a curious criticism? Thus, in the exploration of life in the process, each will have a great potential for growth, a good relationship will be set up in such a basis. Interestingly, when the two are not the same with each other to explore these differences has become a major strains of intimacy. If two people are trying to become the same with their own party, but very easy to end the relationship because of all the tension is gone. Nobody at all times, both want their people together exactly right?
Change must also maintain self-
Lai Peixia: You mentioned two priorities, one, do not always want to become like each other as yourself. Many women are always imparting instruction to her man
﹁more﹂ meet their expectations, but forget the fact that they've done a good job, which makes men also under great pressure. Another point is to remind the woman, man and woman have very different characteristics.
Jaya: Yes, so we have a lot of other body lines, do not always focus on the shortcomings on the other side. In the relationship, if we can share internal and willing to open, but also accept different with their partner, such a relationship will be very interesting. Of course, to achieve such a state may be some difficulties, but we must face the challenge of this point, because we want to understand each other, want to have a better intimacy.
Lai Peixia: Finally, please share with us your goals and focus on teaching.
Jaya: I will focus on the ability to accept help people to internal and external integration. With the inherent potential to learn how to daily life at every step toward our inner true self.
Excessive emphasis on the traditional spiritual practice of men, in fact, the essence of female energy has a lot of love, but love can be manifested, which modern society is very important. Spiritual practice is not only born, but also in the state of WTO integration. I like the integration of internal and external, and not just focus on a certain emphasis.
Love, such as light, fear as dark, when we have enough love, the fear will naturally become less. People are afraid to look inside, and constantly make inner shadow effect to the external world. However, we are so rich individuals, if we can accept ourselves and learn to love themselves inherently different parts can be more easily accepted by others.